About Us

Founded in 2022, Altogether Beautiful Ministries is a nonprofit organization dedicated to providing quality and Christ-centered sex education, encouragement, and empowerment to women throughout churches and the larger community. We seek to improve access to, and promote healing surrounding topics of sex and sexuality through the lens of scripture. By providing affordable and interactive experiences, Altogether Beautiful Ministries equips women with the tools and community they need to overcome some of the barriers surrounding quality sex education and sexual fulfilment.

Our Story

Two women sat talking one day about their passion for wanting to educate women about their bodies and God-given sexuality. What they had discovered was that our bodies and sex are two of the biggest taboo subjects in the church and Christian homes. So many women have grown up, or are growing up, with questions that go unanswered. Many Christians pretend Song of Songs doesn’t exist, or that it’s a forbidden book that found its way in our Holy Bible. Purity culture has convinced Christians that their bodies and sexual feelings are dirty and shameful. The church stays silent on matters of sexuality, apart from the rare sermon of “fleeing temptation”. Pastors and parents have no problem telling us what not to do before marriage, but then leave us to figure it out after we’re married.

But we need to talk about sex.

We’ve been asked why. Why do we need to talk about this? Usually the person asking this question has bright red ears and downcast eyes. We believe that there are three main reasons we as Christians have to start talking about sex:

God created sex.

This beautiful act was created and ordained by God to be enjoyed by his children. Our sexuality is a God-given gift. His beautiful design was given to those in a covenant marriage and to be used as an act of pleasure for a husband and wife, and an act of worship to their Creator. If we can talk about all of God’s other gifts, we can certainly talk about this one.

The world is already talking about it.

We can no longer stay silent. The world has taken this gift and has twisted and perverted it into something disgusting and harmful. Hollywood had been portraying unrealistic sex for decades, the pornography industry is worth billions, sex trafficking is at an all time high, and our children are engaging in sexual acts at younger ages every year. By staying silent, the church and Christian homes of America are really saying that it is an off-limit subject for Christians. The silence in the church culture is just allowing other voices to be heard and our kids are growing up with their ideas and views on sex being molded by the world, and not by God.

Marriages suffer when sex isn’t taught in the appropriate context.

Kids are raised with “sex is bad, don’t do it” coming from the church. Then they’re getting married, and then having a difficult time reconciling what they’ve been told with what they’re now being told. Women especially have a very difficult time flipping the switch from “curse” to “blessing”. This results in sexual dysfunction such as vaginismus and deep shame in their bodies. Women feel like if they enjoy sex in their marriage that there must be something wrong with them. Men feel like sex is just something you do to fulfill an urge and never get past that to the true blessing of intimacy that God intended.

Debra Fileta, Christian licensed professional counselor and sex therapist says “It’s time to talk about sex, because our expectations, understanding, and views of this sacred act begin taking shape long before we say I do.”

We have to talk about sex. We must teach our children what God’s design for sex is and why. Christians can no longer remain silent, pretending it doesn’t exist. There are too many negative consequences to this approach.

So let’s talk about sex!